I sit here on this rainy day thinking of what I want to type to all of you beautiful people. It is just feeling like one of those days where I want to share some wisdom with you all, and with my new lifestyle blog I figured what a great first entry! I am going to share some of my story, some advice and hopefully inspire you to be the best you you can be!
I am sitting here at the computer with my coffee to the right of me and my lava lamp and positive quotes surrounding me listening to the rain pitter pattering off of the awning outside of the window. I’m thinking about this journey that I am on, this musical journey, and thinking of how incredible it is that so many of you have come along for this ride. You devote the time to listen to new music, watch videos, call in and request my songs, come out to shows, read posts and entries like this one and the list goes on and on and on. I think about all of this and how incredible it really is that there are so many people who believe in this dream and believe in the bigger picture that we are all looking at. Ever since I was a 3 year old little girl this has been my big dream. Never had any other plans, just to be on a stage sharing my music and making a difference. To my advantage, I have very entrepreneurial parents who are my best friends and support me every day since that little 3 year old said she wanted to be a singer. They have sacrificed so much to be on this journey with me and to continue to help make this dream become a reality and for that I am forever grateful. They are truly two of the most incredible human beings that you would ever want to meet.
So getting back to thinking about this journey that I am on, I think about the difficulties that I have come across along the way. It isn’t always glitz and glamour (even though there are some artists that try to make it seem like that is all it is) it truly is a difficult journey. Lots of traveling, late nights, early morning, tears, frustration, anger, worrying, negativity and so much more. But guess what? I would not trade one second of it. I think of all of the people that have come in and out of my life while on this journey as well, both personally and professionally, and whether it be positive or negative, I am so thankful for each one of them. They have made me stronger, they have taught me that when one door closes another one opens. I like to think that this path that I am on is what was chosen for me in life. It isn’t just random for me to have woke up with a musical gift, or to have this platform. This is my purpose. This is my way to make a difference.
So you are probably thinking, “Ok so what does all of this mean for me?” Well, I am getting to the point of some of my positive goodness right here!
I see so many parents and kids on my social media that are dealing with the topic of “Bullying” every single day. It breaks my heart to see this and that is why I have created the “Positive Youth Tour” to travel around to schools sharing my music and my stories of bullying. To show that I too have been there. Heck, there are days where I am still there. I have been called names, I have been picked on for being a singer, for dressing differently, for focusing on my music, for “being different” and again I say the list goes on and on. I would be lying to you if I said right from the beginning I was able to let it just roll off of my back, because guess what? I couldn’t. Hearing people say such awful things about you could really get very hard. I would ask my parents why this was all happening. I just could not understand how people could be so mean. I always get asked, “How do you deal with that?” My answer? the incredible people that I surround myself with. You see, words don’t have to break you. If you don’t allow negativity and nay sayers to get to you, they never will. Lets be honest, we all deal with this. Whoever you are reading this right now and wherever you are reading this, seriously stop and think. I am sure you can think of one time when you have struggled with someone saying something negative or behind your back. It is all such a pet peeve for me and such a terrible thing in my opinion. Why should ANYONE tear someone down for following a dream, or being different, or following a different path in life? The answer is simple, they shouldn’t. The truth of the matter is, if I listened to every negative word someone said to me or let every little set back control my future, I would probably be crying in a corner every day! Instead, I take that negativity and use it as motivation. Motivation on this journey and in my music. I use it to share my stories and hope to make a difference through my music. To be a positive change.
Lets face it, these people who try to tear anyone down are just not happy with themselves. My advice? To take the kind route. If you can’t say anything nice back, then just don’t. But don’t ever change who you are for someone else. Keep following your own dream, keep dressing the way that you want to, keep being who you really are. I think this is something a lot of us lose. Who we really are. We get so wrapped up in worrying about what everyone else is doing or what everyone else wants us to look like or sound like or act like, that we get so totally lost in that and try to fabricate things either on social media or in real life that truly just is not our reality. Instead of getting lost from following someone else’s map, take the initiative to draw your own and follow your own path. The reality is that we are ALL different!! And to me, that is SUCH a beautiful thing. I am like no one else out there and neither are you!
It is all so much easier said than done, but believe me when I say that it is possible. ANYTHING is possible.
Moral of this blog post? (Well, lets be honest we kind of covered a lot haha) The whole end all be all is, don’t let others harsh or negative opinions get to you. Never let anyone define who you should be and never let someone else draw up your dream map.
To those of you reading this who are part of my incredible group of “Dream Teamers” I say thank you for coming on this journey and for helping create this dream what it is today. I am sure somewhere along the way a little nay sayer may come on here too to pop in and read this, and that is ok too! I hope that it makes a difference for whoever you are and whatever you may be dealing with.
I am going to go back to enjoying this rainy day and drawing my map for the incredible year that 2018 is going to be!!
Love, light and blessings,